All mothers have a home life. It can be tempting to see the heavy demands of homemaking as obstacles to holiness. After all, dealing with constant interruptions and crying kids distract you, making devotions short and tempers high. If only there were some way to turn all of this mess into holiness!
Don’t confuse energy management with time management.
Tell me if this sounds like you.
I make reasonable schedules and lists. I’m not double booked. But I just end up getting sidetracked, working slower and slower, or checking out to do something more relaxing. I cannot clear a to-do list!
It’s easy to overload your to-do list with short tasks. However even 30 minute events like confession or a high-intensity workout can completely drain you. Try rating each task you add to your to-do list with a 1-5. One for not at all tiring, to five for super exhausting. Suddenly the mid-afternoon slump makes sense.
Everyone has a best time of day
I am not a morning person. You don’t have to be one either. Buuuut, earlier in your day (no matter when that starts) truly is a great time to get things done. Simply for the fact that you haven’t spent all your energy yet. Don’t discount the mornings, fellow night owls.
Different kinds of energy
Physical, mental, emotional, and social tasks each drain your energy at different rates. Find what works for you!
Take a break
Breaks take time, but save energy & time in the long run.
Give your priorities your best
Try to rearrange our schedule so the tasks needing energy fall into your best times. This isn’t always possible, especially with outside obligations. But wiggle around what is wiggle-able.
Try to reserve some energy for your family evenings too. This may mean feeling under accomplished during the day. But your family deserves your best self; not a burnt-out crisp, stretched out on the couch.
Give yourself grace
Be honest with yourself; you’re only human. It’s ok to have low energy days or areas. It’s ok to have lots of social energy or very little mental energy (especially if you have little ones). It’s ok to not do it all.
Refill and recharge
Since you’re reading this post, I know you’re probably not spending enough time on self-care. You cannot pour from an empty cup. It isn’t selfish to replenish yourself. In fact, it’s the only way to keep going.
This has been another Seven Quick Takes. Check out the others at This Ain’t The Lyceum.
When I wrote this a year ago, I was writing it for myself too. Personally, I was unsure of my attitude towards motherhood. Every day felt like drowning in a sea of mundane, repetitive responsibilities. The diapers, dishes, laundry, and random messes felt like they ran my whole day. I was more maid than wife or mother.
I did a little reading and journalling on the vocation of motherhood. Here’s the attitude-adjustment that followed. Also, I share a HUGE practical resource that helped me get my head above water when I was submerged in chaos.
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Let me get this out of the way first. No, it’s not because I think I’m better than anyone. Yes, I’m nearly the only woman at my parish veiling.